Often when I go out with a woman, one of the first things I look at is her toes and feet. I don't care how attractive the rest of her body is, if her toes and feet are not attractive, then it is a deal breaker for me. Also, I don't care how unattractive the rest of her body might be, if she has beautiful toes and feet, then she has my attention. Why is this the case? How was this attraction installed in my brain?
I have read a few articles on the topic of fetishism, but nothing has satisfactorily answered my question. There is the typical view that fetishism is the result of association. At some point during puberty, a male is sexually aroused and happens to see some pretty toes. The pretty toes are imprinted in his mind and an association occurs between his feeling of sexual arousal and the pretty toes. Is this really all there is to it? If this is the case, then is there a way to interrupt this association or change it? Often times I have met a woman who I get along with. We have a lot in common, and there is mutual attraction. Then I see her in heels, and my attraction drops to zero. Her toes are not to my liking, and I cannot continue seeing her.
This association that I have between pretty toes/feet and sexual arousal is sometimes annoying. For example, very recently I met a woman whom I was very attracted to. She had a great personality. We would talk for hours, we felt very comfortable around each other, and things looked like they could turn into something really special. Then, one day out of nowhere, we went to a park, and she was wearing flip flops. I saw her toes, and I knew instantly that our relationship would not be going any further. It was out of my control. It was like a switch in my mind turned off, and I couldn't turn it back on.
Sure, there are some fetishes I have heard of that are completely insane. I mean really, who associates sexual pleasure with urine? That is too weird. At the same time, it is strange fetishes such as this that give us (toe fetishists) a bad name. I do not agree that having a fetish for beautiful feet and toes is something negative. Toes and feet are a sensitive part of a woman's body. They have several nerve endings that stimulate erogenous places on a woman. I have never had any woman complain about me kissing her feet and toes. This doesn't prevent them from making me feel like I am some kind of freak.
Women, if your man has a foot/toe fetish, then embrace it. Let him worship you like the goddess that you are. Don't make him feel like he is some kind of weirdo because he happens to find your toes and feet attractive. Do not lump him in with the true weirdos, who have a fetish about urine and other bodily waste.
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