Oh Yes She Will!

Women are extraordinary creatures. I will be the first to say that after making woman, the Lord has yet to outdo himself.

Men tend to place women in different categories. For women who we see and meet at clubs and bars, we have a category. For women who we see at work and meet in professional environments, we have a category. For women who are religious and go to church, we have a category. For women who are married, we have a category. Most of these categories do not mix. Once a woman is placed in a certain category, she tends to stay there.

The problem with this way of thinking is that any woman is capable of belonging to more than one category. Men just don't see it that way. For example, a man will date a woman who he thinks has had many sex partners, but he will not marry her. At the same time, he will marry a woman who he thinks has had a few or no sex partners before meeting him.

Women follow a similar pattern. A woman will have a one night stand with a man if she does not foresee a long term relationship with him. However, if she thinks that she might want a serious relationship with a man, then she will make him wait before giving herself to him sexually.

Let's focus on the man. Men place a high moral value on the woman who they see as their future wife. A man wants his wife to be as pure as she can possibly be. He wants to think that she is not like the many sexual creatures he enjoyed lustful sex with. No. His wife must not share any of the traits that those sex-gone-wild girls display to the whole world. The reality, though, is that there aren't many women in the world who can live up to this ideal.

Most, not all, women have had lustful trysts. Most women have been treated like sexual objects by any number of men. Women do not live under rocks. How can they be expected to be without sexual experiences in this day and age, when sex is becoming less of a sacred act? Men are sleeping with men. Women are sleeping with women. People are enjoying threesomes. It's getting crazy out there.

So, men, when you look upon your damsel, the love of your life, and ask yourself if she will sleep with a man on the first date - even though she made you wait three months - the answer is a resounding, "Oh yes she will!"

DB

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Marriage is for Children

If two people are not going to have kids, then they should not get married. Marriage should serve one purpose: to raise kids. Besides having kids, why would any two people want to legally bind themselves to one another? This is absurd.

Liability

Men, when you marry a woman, you are committing to provide for her way beyond the time you spend together as a married couple. When you get divorced, and chances are you will, you are legally obligated to pay her alimony for half the years that you were married if your marriage lasts 9 years or less. If you somehow manage to deal with her for 10 years, then you will be stuck paying alimony for the rest of your life or until she re-marries. Chances are she will just move in with a guy. Why would she want to give up the alimony, right?

Social Security

Men, when you die, and chances are you will die before your wife, your social security benefits will go to her even if you were divorced. So, you paid her alimony your whole life, and when you die you will still be paying her. Oh yeah!! I can't wait to get married again - NOT!

Get Real

If you marry somebody without the intention of having kids, then you are probably worried about dying alone. Everybody dies alone. When my grandfather passed away, a bunch of us were in the room. We saw him breathe his last breath. Sure, there were people in the room, but he met death all by himself. So, if you are worried about being alone, make some friends. Take up golfing. The golf course is a really great place to make new friends. Or get a girlfriend. Nobody says you have to marry her. Trust me, she'll be happy to move in with you as long as she thinks that one day you will propose. Keep her living with you, just don't propose.

Women live longer than men, mainly because they nag us to death. LOL!! So, if you are feeling lonely, take up golf. It's 1,000 times cheaper than getting married and then divorced.

Freedom

One is never truly free when in a relationship. You can't make plans without checking in with your woman. You can't come and go as you please, or you'll be getting into fights with her. Relationships take away your freedom. Why shackle yourself to some woman who is not the mother of your children? It is bad enough to have to pay alimony to a woman who is the mother of your children, especially when she makes enough money to take care of herself and is already living with some other dude. Why subject yourself to having to pay some woman who is not bound to you by children? Stick to having a girlfriend. When she nags you about golfing too much, break up with her. It will not cost you a dime.

Marriage Sucks

Lastly, marriage sucks! Unless you want to raise children and provide a home with a mommy and a daddy for your kids, then don't get married for the plain fact that marriage sucks.

Same Sex Marriage

The same applies to you. Marriage sucks no matter what your sexual preference is. If you want to leave your hard earned money to somebody, leave it to hungry children. Do not leave it to somebody who will begin dating somebody else before the ink on your death certificate dries.

DB

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Divorce and Women in the Workplace

It is my belief that the increase in divorce rates can be attributed to women joining the workforce. No, I do not have anything against women working, making money, voting or anything of the sort. I am merely stating what I believe to be a statistical truth.

In the 1950's, women typically stayed home while their husbands went to work. The woman cooked, cleaned, looked after the children, and took care of her man. The woman's place in society was the home, and the man was the provider.

The 1950's Workplace

As we have seen in shows like Mad Men or Boardwalk Empire, most workplaces were made up of married men and single women. The married men held all of the important positions while the women held secretarial positions. Men were in charge and what a great feeling that must have been. They made enough money to provide for their families, and everybody was happy. The women knew that their men would take care of them.

The 21st Century Workplace

Nowadays, there are all sorts of people in the workplace. There are married men, married women, divorced men and women, and single men and women. Men are no longer the only ones in charge. Many companies have women in executive positions. Consequently, the home also looks very different from what it looked like in the 50's. Homes are made up of single mothers, single fathers and diminishing married couples.

Reality Check

Regardless of how sophisticated and evolved we all feel we are, the reality is that we still have primitive urges. Men want to take care of their women. And yes, women want to be taken care of by their men. It doesn't matter how much money a woman makes, at the end of the day she wants to feel protected. This is why marriages where the woman makes more money than her husband do not last.

If women had not entered the workplace, men would still be in charge. Men would be the bread winners and women would feel protected and marriages would truly last "til death do us part".

Women and Salaries

A pie can only be divided into so many pieces. With more and more women entering the workplace, the slices of pie are getting smaller and smaller. Therefore, men can no longer command the large salaries that they enjoyed in the past. Furthermore, households can no longer be sustained by one income. The increased population of women in the workplace means that the salary a man once enjoyed by himself must now be shared with a woman. For example, in the past a man earned $50,000 per year and could provide for his family. Now, the same salary is split in half ($25,000 for the man and $25,000 for the woman), and neither can sustain a household individually.

All of this leads to the fact that as more women enter the workplace the more it hurts the institution of marriage. Men can no longer be providers like they used to be. Men can no longer take care of their women and children. Consequently, a woman begins to feel that her man is weak. So, what does she do? She looks for a man who can provide for her and give her the feeling of security that all women crave. Where do they find these men? They find these men in the workplace.

Competition

The workplace offers a woman the opportunity to meet a man who can provide for her the way her husband can't. In the workplace, a woman is exposed to all sorts of men. She meets powerful executives, men who are business owners and men who have all of the qualities that her husband lacks. So, she becomes less happy with her husband and the marriage suffers. What she fails to realize is that the man she is attracted to at work is married and has similar problems with his wife.

Had women stayed in the home, divorce rates would not be as alarmingly high as they are now. A man would still be able to provide for his wife and his children. A woman would enjoy the feeling of being protected, and a man would revel in his place as the "man of the house."

Solution

The only solution is to do away with the institution of marriage. Marriages can't function the way they used to. All of the factors that made marriages a success in the past have changed. However, the inherent expectations that men and women have of their mates through marriage haven't changed. As long as our primitive desires remain intact, then the institution of marriage will never succeed in our current society.

R